Your wedding day should be one of the happiest of your life. Of course, every bride imagines their wedding ceremony as a day of celebration and love. But the stresses of wedding planning can easily take a once happy bride-to-be down the joy-stealing path of a bridezilla — and no one wants that.
So, to minimize the likelihood of a perfectly secure and pleasant bride turning into an impossible-to-satisfy, bossy bridezilla, check out these five wedding planning hacks that will help you feel less stressed and prevent an over-the-top meltdown.
1. Be Mindful of the Expectations You Place on Bridesmaids
The first step here is to remember why you picked these lucky souls to be your bridesmaids in the first place. Surely, it was because they are your closest friends and you want them to hold that title after your wedding, too. In that case, treat them like they’re people with other financial and time obligations in their lives besides your wedding. Pick what’s most important to you, such as the dress they wear or a destination bachelorette party, but be flexible on the rest.
2. Breathe Before You Text
There is something to be said for a moment of pause before you send an ALL CAPS angry text to your caterer, photographer or other wedding vendor. Bridezillas have a knack for issuing excessive demands to their wedding vendors and then fuming when the professionals they’ve just abused cancel or stop returning their phone calls. Don’t let this be you. Keep in mind, any well-recommended vendor will go above and beyond to meet your needs, but you shouldn’t necessarily expect perfection.
3. Let Your Partner In
Bridezillas tend to think because they’re wearing the expensive dress that their special day belongs solely to them. But in reality, your wedding day is a celebration of two people entering into a loving union. So, make sure you don’t sabotage your significant other by not involving them in at least some of the aspects of planning.
4. Stick to Your Budget
Overspending can turn even the most level-headed bride into a ball of stress, triggering their inner bridezilla to emerge. Remember, your wedding is not a competition; rather, it’s a celebration — and there is a difference. An excellent way to stick to your budget is by deciding on a few key personal elements to incorporate in your wedding.
Spend money on things like an ice cream bar to mimic your first date, a sweet photo collage or a signature drink and then cut costs on less crucial components. There will always be bigger and better weddings, but you’re walking away with the biggest prize there is: love.
5. Celebrate the Little Things
Yes, the big details matter. We’re talking about choosing the right venue, food and music. Those create the atmosphere and provide a lot of the best memories you’ll have from your special day. But try not to let those big pieces be the sole focus as you plan your wedding ceremony. Celebrating when you come across the perfect bridal lingerie, flowers or invitations can be a nice way of offsetting some of the bridal stress and keeping you out of bridezilla territory.
Enjoy Being a Bride
Perhaps the most important part of keeping that inner bridezilla part of you in check is so you can actually enjoy your wedding. It’s easy to let the inner control freak out when you’re sleep deprived, stressed out and the pressure is mounting. But follow these tips and remember, when all is said and done, everyone attending your wedding will most certainly share with you how great it was. So, don’t forget to make it fun!